Ever lived with someone who's personality challenged you to the point that you avoided them at all costs? That's my current situation but rather than ask them to move out, I'm seeing this adversity as an opportunity for enormous self-growth.
Yes we have a LOT of differences. We are at different stages in life and with different interests so it's hard to find common ground.
My flatmate is a Manifestor and I am an Manifesting Generator. After living with this person for about 3 months and just now reading about the Manifestor's Strengths and Weaknesses in Karen Curry's Human Design book, I see the correlation of their traits LOUD AND CLEAR.
I'm not here to bitch about them because I would only be bitching about myself because as I read this list about Manifestors, I can also see this list in me. I can get angry and irritable when I'm impatient. I'm sure many people have seen me as self-absorbed and at times 'not a team player'. So I recognise that my flatmate is simply a reflection of my own traits.
To feel monk-like compassion, tolerance and patience for another, I find it useful to see everyone as my mirror. What I don't like about someone else is what I don't like about myself. So instead of trying to change them, I take full responsibility for the issue and begin the introspection to change me.
Lately I've been doing lots of journaling to uncover beliefs I may be holding onto, then Theta Healing and EFT on myself coupled with Diamond Light meditations and going for morning walks.
I'm happy to report that the energy between us has improved slightly. While I don't feel we'll every be good friends, I'm in a cycle of 'Powerful Healing' till Feb 2022 so I completely understand why this person has entered my reality.
And once I've learnt the lessons this person came into my reality to teach me, I believe they will vibrate out of my reality too.